Are you only getting a fraction of what you want in your life despite hard work and effort?
What if I told you that you have the power and capacity to be unconditionally happy, to do or have anything you want and promised to prove it with actual facts rather than “woo-woo” stuff. Despite being a yogi and the fact that I consider myself a spiritual person, I always had a hard time truly buying into the whole manifesting thing. I mean really? I can just think about the stuff I want and it will magically appear under a rainbow of fairy dust with a vibrant purple unicorn at the bottom? Nah, I’ll just keeping working my butt off and reach my goals the way real people do.
It wasn’t until I began studying science that I was able to make sense of the way our minds work and recognize that true happiness in an inside job.
The average person has 50,000-70,000 thoughts per day, with the majority of them being subconscious. If we were to actually consciously process those 50K plus thoughts a day, it would be overwhelming which is why our intelligent brains have a gate keeper. The reticular activating system or RAS, is an actual part of your brain and has a very important role: it controls the information that is let into your conscious mind. Think of it like a filter or nightclub bouncer that works for your brain. Your RAS decides what information is important enough for your conscious mind to pay attention to. To put it to the test, look around the room that you’re in right now and count how many things you see that are blue. Close your eyes and take 5 cycles of breath and remember all the things that are yellow, chances are you didn’t even notice anything yellow because you were so focused on the blue. This works the same way with what we focus on in life. If you are focused on everything that needs to be fixed, how can you possibly see opportunities to grow? Hopefully this exercise was able to prove to you that we are designed to only consciously recognize the thoughts that we are focused on therefor its imperative to focus on what we have rather than what we lack.
Food for thought:
By setting intentions of what you do want, you’re sending the message to the gatekeeper to relay the people, circumstances and events to your conscious mind that will lead you right where you need to be. Opportunities are always around us however we often miss out on them because we don’t even recognize that they are there. Choosing positive thoughts perpetuate more of what you want rather than what you don’t want.
First you need to get clear on what you want and come up with things that inspire you beyond belief. We often get so caught up in the day to day activities that we don’t take the time to get precise with what will truly make us happy.
Step 1: Find Clarity
The best way to start is by journaling. Ask yourself the question “What do I want in my life” and just write. Avoid over thinking and just put the pen to paper and write until you feel complete, and then write a little more.
Step 2: Re-Write Your Story
Read through what you wrote and notice any limiting or negative statements and re-write the story in a positive format. Turn all the “I don’t wants” into an affirmation in the present moment. “I don’t want to be single anymore” turns into “I am excited to meet my ideal partner.” Look for statements that remind you of what you’re lacking and re-word them into something that feels inspiring. For example; “I want to lose weight” may remind you that your weight isn’t what you want it to be, therefor your RAS will show you all the reasons why you don’t feel good in your body rather than opportunities to change it. Empower yourself by writing “I love my body and I am getting healthier and healthier every day.”
Step 3: Define where you are abundant in your life
If you really want a new car, remind yourself of how grateful you are for the car you already have or the existing ability you have to get you from point A to point B. Your thoughts are like a boomerang, what you send out is what you get back. Replace thoughts that come from a place of lack to thoughts that come from abundance. You have SO many amazing things happening in your life and in order to receive more awesome experiences you first must remember what you already have.
Step 4: Remember to Remember
Now that you have figured out things that excite the heck out of you, you are ready to give your RAS some guidelines of what you’re ready to receive. I suggest writing your affirmations and gratitude’s on sticky notes and post them everywhere like your home/office/bathroom/kitchen, anywhere where you can be reminded on a consistent basis. You can even set reminders in your phone at sporadic times throughout the day as a boost on where to focus. Creating a vision board is always a sure fire way to get your juices flowing. Remember, old habits die hard so you’ll want as many reminders as possible and I encourage you to get creative and make it fun!
Step 5: Wait Patiently
The most challenging part is learning to stay in your positive mindset and trust that everything is going to happen at the perfect time. The moment you switch your focus to a place of lack, guess what you’re going to get… zip, zero, zilch.
“Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait, and wait without anxiety.”
-A Course in Miracles
Now that you have some tools for creating the life of your dreams and proof that this stuff really works you have to find the personal integrity to follow through and do the work. DO IT NOW or schedule time within the next week for yourself to take these 5 simple steps towards creating positive change in your life. Better yet, share with a friend and set a date to do it together.
I wish you the best of luck and would love to hear any tips and tricks that you have up your sleeve towards creating happiness in your life.
All my love!
Brittni is a 500hr RY-T Yoga Instructor, Ayurveda Wellness Counselor and Motivational Speaker. Her focus is living a fulfilling, healthy and passionate life by combining the ancient wisdom of Yoga and Ayurveda and explains them in a way that everyone can understand and apply to their own lives. Brittni is abundant with positivity and full of inspiration. Follow her @brittnisoo